Love languages are a popular way of understanding how we give and receive care. The idea is that we all speak specific "languages" when it comes to love. Knowing your preferred love language can help you better communicate what you need in your relationships.
But, no matter how close you are with someone, you may not necessarily want to speak the same love language they do. Adora Winquist, an author and expert on love and relationships, tells TODAY.com that many people assume that their partner wants to receive love the same way as they do. Not true, says Winquist.
Knowing the love languages your partner and beloved friends prefer is just as important as your own, says Winquist. She often finds that clients are so invested in their own needs that they don't take the time to ask their partner if their needs are being met.
Reece Stockhausen, a relationship and intimacy coach, adds that it's important to take time to understand the ins and outs of our partner's love languages — in addition to our own. For example, you may know that someone loves words of affirmation, but they may have preference about what kind of words you use to express care — or what they like to be complimented on.
The best way to find out how others want to be shown affection is to ask. Why not take a moment today and ask someone you care about what their love language is — and how they like it to be used? Get all the details! It's one quick conversation that could make your relationship a lot closer.
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