December is an infamously difficult time for people who don't have a family or don't want to be with the one they have. The holidays can also intensify grief for anyone missing a loved one.
The main thing Lane Moore, author of "How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even If You Don't," advises is to spend Christmas the way YOU want to. "The holidays should be a time where you get to feel loved and safe and special. But for so many of us, it becomes about doing what everyone but us wants to do, even if it makes us feel awful," she said.
Protect yourself by saying "no" to anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, like a noisy party, and be honest if you are grieving a loss, said Rabbi Steve Leder, author of "More Beautiful than Before." Recognize the absence that is present and talk about that sorrow -- don't deny it.
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